What is counselling?
Counselling is where you (the person wanting talk therapy) would meet regularly (once a week) in a safe neutral space, with a qualified counsellor like myself. The aim is that you would feel listened to (heard), receive empathy (feel understood), in an environment that is warm as well as professional, and where you will not feel judged This environment would help trust to build over a period of time, and you would be able to explore yourself and the issues, or the issues and yourself.
People engage in therapy for many different psychological and/or practical reasons, however, a psychological imbalance can occur in anyone’s life, at any time. A psychological imbalance can result from experiences such as loss, which may impact on other areas of our life, for example; work performance, professional relationships and/or personal relationships, and even lead to addiction maybe, ie self medication, to cope.
For example, after a bereavement, if you are not aware of the bereavement and loss process, and where you are in it, life may feel very chaotic and non-nonsensical and you maybe unable to identify the issues, and thus unable to manage them. The obvious kinds of loss such bereavement maybe clear to us that we are struggling because of the loss, but there are many kinds of loss; some that we are not even aware of which can impact on our psychological wellbeing. Once you are aware you can acknowledge your insight, know what you are dealing with, and work towards a healthier you. One of the advantages of having a therapist is that the therapist can act as your outside world and reflect back to you what is seen from outside the emotional difficulties. While you may be emotionally caught up in the difficulties on the inside, with the help of a therapist you can obtain a ‘bigger picture’ which is objective as well as subjective.
Issues can arise at any time in a person’s life and can leave the person feeling troubled, or even feeling paralyzed, and unable to move forward without knowing why. Personal issues can be further complicated when they arise in our relationships; especially relationships that are very important to us.
As well as identifying the current issues and their roots, integrative therapy allows an opportunity to explore how the past may be affecting the present, where once you have a clearer picture of the past and a better understanding of why you are, where you are, you can then look forward, feeling more empowered, and choose to do something positive which will help you to move towards taking control of the issues, rather than the issues taking control of the you.
I work with people with many different issues, however, I prefer to work addressing the whole person and not just their issues. Although, I do provide counselling specifically for the person who is looking to address the issues alone, like low self-esteem, anger management, stress management, relationships and more, as ultimately I work client autonomously which means I am predominantly client led (sometimes call person centred or humanistic counselling). This means, its your space, and I work with what you bring (or do not).
I work with individuals; (one to one), as well as with couples; (relationship focussed), short and/or long term. I have mentioned already my approach is integrative; which means I combine Humanstic Therapy (person centred), Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (thoughts and feelings), and Psychodynamic Therapy (childhood and/or past issues/experiences). There is more information about the Integrative Counselling I offer on the next link.
One to one therapy can help a person to discover who they are, visualize themselves from the outside looking in, as well as the inside looking out, in a safe space; and warm professional environment where you will not be judged and free to explore. Once you understand the issues and yourself better you can then, with the help of a qualified therapist, build strategies that will enable and empower you to manage the issues and be the person you want to be.