What is Counselling?
Counselling is usually once a week to begin with; where you (the person comtemplating talk therapy) meets regularly (once a week) in a safe space, warm and professional environment, with a qualified counsellor like myself. The environment I offer is therapeutic as well as professional (please see below):
The aim is that you would feel listened to (heard), receive empathy (feel understood), in an environment that is warm as well as professional, and where you will not feel judged This environment would help trust to build over a period of time, and you would be able to explore yourself and the issues, or the issues and yourself.
People engage in therapy for many different psychological and/or practical reasons, however, a psychological imbalance can occur in anyone’s life, at any time. A psychological imbalance can result from experiences such as loss, which may impact on other areas of our life, for example; work performance, professional relationships and/or personal relationships, and even lead to addiction maybe, ie self medication, to cope.
For example, after a bereavement, if you are not aware of the bereavement and loss process, and where you are in it, life may feel very chaotic and non-nonsensical and you maybe unable to identify the issues, and thus unable to manage them. The obvious kinds of loss such bereavement maybe clear to us that we are struggling because of the loss, but there are many kinds of loss; some that we are not even aware of which can impact on our psychological wellbeing. Once you are aware you can acknowledge your insight, know what you are dealing with, and work towards a healthier you. One of the advantages of having a therapist is that the therapist can act as your outside world and reflect back to you what is seen from outside the emotional difficulties. While you may be emotionally caught up in the difficulties on the inside, with the help of a therapist you can obtain a ‘bigger picture’ which is objective as well as subjective.
Issues can arise at any time in a person’s life and can leave the person feeling troubled, or even feeling paralyzed, and unable to move forward without knowing why. Personal issues can be further complicated when they arise in our relationships; especially relationships that are very important to us.
As well as identifying the current issues and their roots, integrative therapy allows an opportunity to explore how the past may be affecting the present, where once you have a clearer picture of the past and a better understanding of why you are, where you are, you can then look forward, feeling more empowered, and choose to do something positive which will help you to move towards taking control of the issues, rather than the issues taking control of the you.
I work with people with many different issues, however, I prefer to work addressing the whole person and not just their issues. Although, I do provide counselling specifically for the person who is looking to address the issues alone, like low self-esteem, anger management, stress management, relationships and more, as ultimately I work client autonomously which means I am predominantly client led (sometimes call person centred or humanistic counselling). This means, its your space, and I work with what you bring (or do not).
I work with individuals; (one to one), as well as with couples; (relationship focussed), short and/or long term. I have mentioned already my approach is integrative; which means I combine Humanstic Therapy (person centred), Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (thoughts and feelings), and Psychodynamic Therapy (childhood and/or past issues/experiences). There is more information about the Integrative Counselling I offer on the next link.
One to one therapy can help a person to discover who they are, visualize themselves from the outside looking in, as well as the inside looking out, in a safe space; and warm professional environment where you will not be judged and free to explore. Once you understand the issues and yourself better you can then, with the help of a qualified therapist, build strategies that will enable and empower you to manage the issues and be the person you want to be.
What is integrative counselling?
Integrative Counselling is where more than one therapy is combined. I will name the therapies I combine and explain them briefly.
Psychodynamic therapy has its root in Sigmund Freud. In summary it focusses on past experiences, sometimes going as far back as childhood. Sometimes as children we develop coping strategies that do not serve us well in adulthood, such as aggression, sulking etc. Exploring our childhood, and past negative experiences, can help us to understand why we are who we are, and why we do what we do.
Cogntive Behavioural Therapy (CBT):
This therapy helps us to look at how our thoughts and feelings are very connected to our behaviour. Thoughts, feelings and behaviour are all very closely linked and impact on each other. CBT can help identify negative patterns, and if you are seeking therapy you have already probably started to identify some negative patterns for yourself and by yourself. However, with the help and gentle challenges of a therapist you can start to build strategies to manage negative patterns in a way that is efficient and thus effective to a better wellbeing.
Person Centered Therapy (Humanistic):
Person-Centered Therapy focusses on you the whole person. When we focus on the person for the good of the person, the person feels heard, understood, and not judged. This is probably how our childhood should have felt, but many will tell you it was not the way it was at all! Therefore, an opportunity to experience this, even as an adult, will be so beneficial to your pathway of a healthier wellbeing, and mostly you will get to you you, or who it is you really want to be and work towards that person.
Relationship counselling can help individuals in a relationship to see themselves more clearly and how their individual past experiences, and other external factors, impact on their relationship. Relationship therapy can also help both individuals see the relationship as a whole, from the ‘outside’ looking in, rather than just staying caught up in the emotional turmoils, and therefore only able to see the relationship from the ‘inside’ looking out, and feeling weighed down in the current viscious cycle further complicated by past individual negative experiences and misunderstandings.
Relationship therapy or couple counselling would be more focussed on the relationship and the issues, whereas 1:1 counselling is more focussed on the person.
What is hypnotherapy?
I would like to be clear that I am not engaged in stage hypnosis; I offer hypnotherapy which is very different. The way I work is to help you to experience relaxation on a deeper level where you are in control at all times. When we are relaxed we are far better placed to deal with issues. Depending upon the issues and their severity you may have not been able to relax, concentrate and focus for a length of time.
Hypnotherapy is a gentle and effective therapy. As a hypnotherpist with the option of combining hypnotherapy with counselling, my approach is ultimately to help you, to help yourself, maybe if needed understand the issues better and take control of the issues, rather than they continue to control of you.
Although hypnosis is a gentle technique it is a powerful therapy in helping to alleviate symptoms which have a psychological component. As a hypnotherapist and counsellor, I feel privileged in being able to use all my skills, knowledge and vast experience, to assist you in working through your difficulties to achieve positive results.
Hypnotherapy is also a very personal experience and choosing the right therapist is important if you are to succeed in your goals, however, I believe the environment is equally important and can help to achieve deeper relaxation in a shorter space of time. I practise in an environment where all your senses will be heightened with the sound of wildlife and peace, as well as the smell of nature and where the visual experience is therapeutic in itself.